Turns on: It turns me on when a man knows how to play with attention, when his compliments sound not like banal phrases, but like true admiration. My heart starts beating faster when I feel the sincerity and passion in our every word, and there is an irresistible chemistry between us.. Turns off: I don't like rush hour on the subway, when everything in the world seems tense and oppressive — I feel the same way when someone tries to control my boundaries or set conditions..