Turns on: I am interested in exploring different aspects of intimate life and opening myself up to new sensations. I dream of trying something new and unusual, perhaps experimenting with role-playing games or trying new places for intimacy.. Turns off: In relationships, I don’t like it when people try to fit into other people’s expectations or lose their individuality. I don’t like it when someone tries to control or manipulate another. In men, I am put off by insecurity and a lack of desire to develop..